GUEST SUBMISSION: I received a submission through our Facebook page about one mother’s struggle with watching her daughter experience the same hurtful situations that she experienced when she was young. The story, in her words, are as follows:
Growing up I had this friend who drove me crazy! I felt like I couldn’t tell this person anything because every time I did, they were all of the sudden doing it. They claim they liked it or them for a while. It started to really get under my skin, and, I guess apparently still gets under my skin because now my daughter had a friend down the street who does the same things. She even goes as far as lying to her parents about how my daughter does all these bad things and purposely hurts her. She came to the door with all these accusations about my daughter and how her mom said that was NOT ok. It must have brought back some old feelings because I told this little girl that she is not innocent in any way and that there was several things that she has done that I have not told her mom about. Ironically this girl for bored and wanted to play with my daughter but her mom said no. I know it’s because all the crap she’s told her mom about my daughter. Poetic Justice! I feel like I came off a little strong on her. Almost like I was taking my own feelings and putting them on her. I feel bad for saying it but maybe if she realizes early age can’t fool everyone than maybe she won’t turn out like my friend. I feel bad that my daughter has to deal with the same crap I did. Why can’t everyone just be nice to each other and girls stop going for blood. Girls really are vindictive and cruel and love to see others squirm. I guess no matter how hard you try to keep your kids from things you experienced, it’ll still find them.
Boy, oh boy do we hear you loud and clear momma! It’s hard to watch little ones struggle the the same hurtful life experiences that we too experienced. But just think of it this way…you too had life experiences that were unpleasant and you came out much stronger for it. Perhpas these life lessons will help make your daughter just as strong as your are. Keep up the good fight!
~ Memoirs of a Strong Woman ~ 